Dont be always scared of a bump in the alley ... they might be the stairs that may take you up...
its not always necessary to be pessimistic about the lows that you have in your life. its normal . everyone has a fucking low time in his life. that low may be a frustration ... a desperation or at times can be just a thought that eats your sense of belief and understanding.
Having said that, how then can you make them ease off and get going in life. thats a "bastard" of a question.
people have an endless race with time trying to evolve out of setbacks and make a comeback. it sounds stupid and way off sense for someone who isnt in that state of mind as you are. much of the damage is done when there are things that you may not want to share with just anyone around you or may its because of the people who were supposed to know everything about your life.